I often get mums (and dads) who tell me up front they DON’T want to be in their baby’s photos when they come in for their newborn session.
I know how that feels. I had a 37 hour labour (yes really!) and lost a litre of blood so I felt like a pale ghost that had been dragged around by a tractor for a while.
But to this day I regret not having even one nice image of the two of us together when he was an actual newborn, when he was brand new, and i was feeling all the brand new mum feelings as well.
The few photos I do have trigger all those memories but imagine how it would feel to have just one beautiful shot of us together, a tiny bit independent from the blur of the newborn period. A kind of testament to the real feelings we have underneath the overwhelm of becoming a parent. I wish I had that photo.
So when I do have mums come in reluctant to be in the photos, I do try and explain it’s for your baby and future you - the you that will realise it doesn’t matter if you have a few bags under your eyes or you haven’t had time to go to the hairdresser. The photo matters more.
if I still haven’t convinced you, here’s a few points to consider before you make the decision not to be in the photos.
l can Photoshop You
Yeah I know, I might get a few people saying you should just accept how you look right now and be empowered. And that’s all good, but I tell you what - if you’ve lost a litre of blood and you haven’t slept for a week, it’s OKAY to get a bit of a digital boost! I’m not going to leave your jaundice baby yellow and I’m not going to leave your skin looking blotchy either!
Can you do all those with the selfies you are taking without using a snapchat with bunny ears? Nope, probably not. So LET me do it for you.
What do you have to lose?
If you truly don’t like the image of you, at least you have it. You don’t even have to show it to anyone. If you change your mind in a few years, you can display it, gift it to your partner, gift it to your child or mother or whoever is going to appreciate it. You can look back on it, and love it.
If you don’t take it, you’ll never have it, and you can never go back in time to do it again. There are no re-dos over your baby’s newborn weeks.
It’s Not About You.
I know it’s harsh, but it’s not. Your child truly won’t care if your hair isn’t bouncy. They won’t even SEE all the things you see. They just see their mum, holding them and looking at them the way the mums below are looking at their children.
It’s worth it, believe me.
So what happens If you regret it now?
You can’t go back in time, but you can do something even better and honestly - just start now.
Book a family session or book something I love - Motherhood Sessions. They are perfect for any aged child and are simple and beautiful.
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